First, the work of , the French obstetrician, was reaching an international audience. In 1981, Odent was revolutionizing the birthing ward at the Pithiviers hospital in France—installing pools for water birth and dimming lights. He argued a radical thesis: The physiology of labor is hormonally identical to the physiology of orgasm and sexual intercourse.
To cut the perineum without medical necessity was, in the emerging 1981 view, to sever the anatomical bridge between reproductive sex and pleasurable sex. If 1981 redrew the anatomy of the mother, it also finally acknowledged the father’s hormonal body. Previously, fathers were relegated to waiting rooms. But the bonding studies of the late 1970s, hitting mainstream consciousness in 1981, showed something remarkable. Birth - Anatomy of Love and Sex -1981-
We are, each of us, born from an act of love (or at least, an act of sex). And we spend the rest of our lives seeking a love that feels like that first, primal safety—the warm, rhythmic, oxytocin-soaked memory of being held skin-to-skin, hearing a heartbeat, and knowing, before language, that we are safe. First, the work of , the French obstetrician,
For the infant, the breast is the first exteriorized object of love. The rooting reflex, the suck-swallow-breathe sequence, and the eye-gazing that occurs during breastfeeding—all of these are the infant’s first lessons in attachment. The 1981 model suggested that disruptions in breastfeeding (due to separation, pain, or formula) could create a template for insecure attachment in adult romantic relationships. Not everyone agreed. The medical establishment of 1981 was still wedded to the "twilight sleep" (scopolamine-morphine) generation of the 1950s. Many doctors dismissed the "anatomy of love" as romantic nonsense. They argued that birth was a pathological crisis to be managed, not a sexual event to be honored. To cut the perineum without medical necessity was,